Boundaries

Toxic people generally want to control everyone around them. They also often think that they're right, and all the rest of us are wrong. So when we try to manage our own choices, lives, and even our own feelings… they don’t handle it well.

And when we try to set boundaries, sometimes they’ll freak out, accusing us of trying to control them. And those of us who worry about being toxic ourselves sometimes avoid setting boundaries because of that.

But when we set boundaries, we’re not trying to make the other person change their behavior. We're changing our behavior, so that we can be emotionally and mentally healthy. They can do whatever they want-- but so can we.

So say you call your toxic, to try and have a semi-normal conversation….